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What can I do if my ex-partner is not allowing me to see my children?

When couples separate it can be difficult to reach an agreement about the arrangements for the children. It is essential to consult with a family solicitor for specific advice. We have set out below some general steps you can consider:


  • Open communication: Try to have a calm and open conversation with your ex-partner about your desire to see your children. Misunderstandings or conflicts can sometimes be resolved through communication.

  • Meditation: Mediation can be an effective way to resolve child arrangement disputes. A neutral third party can help both parties reach an agreement that works for everyone involved.

  • Consult a solicitor: If communication and mediation fail, consult with a family solicitor. They can advise you in respect of your legal rights and the options available to you and help you understand your rights and responsibilities. They can also write to your ex-partner on your behalf, proposing a suitable arrangement for you to have contact with your children.

  • Document everything: Keep records of all interactions and communications related to your children. This includes text messages, emails, phone call logs, and any instances where your ex-partner prevented you from seeing your children. Documentation can be crucial in legal proceedings.

  • Maintain a positive relationship: It is essential to maintain a positive and stable environment for your children. Demonstrating that you can provide for their emotional and physical needs, as this will work in your favour.

  • File court proceedings: Submitting a court application should only be considered when all other options have been exhausted. If necessary, you can consider making an application to court for a child arrangements order. The court can implement a child arrangements order stating who the children will live with and where, when and how you will see them. The court will consider the best interests of the children when making a decision.


Consulting with a family solicitor is crucial to understand your legal rights and options in your particular case. They can guide you through the process and help you pursue the best outcome for your children.

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